Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) » Book Review
** PS. Guys… spoiler alerts ensue** (Granted, there’s little to no set plot, so I think you’ll be fine reading this and then enjoying ze book)
Mindy Kaling begins her list of comedic memoirs with a brief explanation of how unsuitable she is to be seen as any sort of mentor to the girls of America. “My body mass index is certainly not ideal, I frequently use my debit card to buy things that cost less than three dollars because I never have cash on me, and my bedroom is so untidy it looks like vandals ransacked the Anthropologie Sale section. I’m kind of a mess.” (Kaling, 4) But unlike Kelly, her character on the popular show The Office, Mindy Kaling would never cry about a celebrity breakup, text while showering, or plant evidence of cheating in order to confront her boyfriend. Instead, she reveals herself to be a low-key girl who struggled with her weight and lived in a crowded, cockroach-infested apartment in order to attain her dreams. Mindy’s ability to laugh at herself and make light of every situation gives her a role-model affectation despite her testimonial that she is unqualified to give advice.
Mindy has a controversial approach to writing that often appears more as a shopping list than an actual book. Being constantly organized and over-prepared, she keeps a constant tabulation of everything from best friend responsibilities to revenge fantasies while jogging. This results in strange but endearing prose that reads more like a journal than a memoir, and within these catalogs, she hides fragments of advice. For instance, she enlightens the audience that women in romantic comedies are not real in one of her lists. To teenage girls, she sends a message to work hard and go to college as opposed to seeking fame at the age of fifteen. She criticizes the idea of adolescence being the prime of a woman’s life: “The chorus of “Jack and Diane” is: Oh yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone. Are you kidding me? The thrill of living was high school? Come on, Mr. Cougar Mellancamp. Get a life.” (34) To grown women, she criticizes the popularity of one-night stands. Mindy questions the safety of hook-up situations. In one scene, her sexually liberated friend excitedly tries to gossip about an escapade, during which Mindy constantly interrupts with opportunities of how the stranger could have murdered her. Although hilarious in the friend’s irritation, Mindy gives a level-headed perspective about safety in inviting potential sociopaths into your home.
Often whilst looking at celebrities, it’s nearly impossible to imagine they’ve ever been anything but glistening glitterati, but Mindy opens up about the hard work it took to get there. Instead of dropping out of high school and running off to Hollywood, Mindy studied at Dartmouth College. She studied hard, wrote her own material in her free time, and worked as an intern. After graduation, she moved to New York City with her friends, where she worked as a babysitter for a wealthy family to pay the rent. She tried out at many auditions, and met just as many disappointments. She became accustomed to real estate featuring small space, poor air conditioning systems, and an abundance of cockroaches. Although not idealized, she found a job supporting at television show where a man faked séances. Mindy cheerfully describes this period of time by laughing at her failures and surrounding disappointments. This chapter of her life illustrates not only the necessity of hard work to succeed, but also to make light of it as a means of dealing with failure.
Mindy shows an incomparable pride in her body. She designates a chapter to her past as a chubby child, a chapter to her lifelong detest of exercising, and yet another chapter to how her body causes confusion for stylists. As a youth, she was bullied for her weight. When she worked off nearly thirty pounds and felt fabulous in her new body, but was still teased for previously being chunky, she realized that it didn’t matter what anyone else thought about her physique. Mindy specifies that intelligence and humor are a thousand times more important than looks, and that true beauty is found in embracing the body you have – a crucial message for women.
Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) takes the reader on many comedic detours, but maintains a common charm and regard. If you are a female with a sense of humor, you have absolutely no excuse to not read this book. Kaling rationalizes to the reader that they should take a moment to peruse: “This book will take you two days to read. Did you even see the cover? It’s mostly pink.” (5) It’s only a medium-sized quantity of essays, but it leaves the reader wanting more. Hidden behind Mindy’s breezy wisecracking, though, is a thoughtful list of advice accounting for various topics such as safety, self-respect, and the advantage of hard work. Her honesty and independence contradict her statement that she’s too incompetent to give advice, and instead affirm that she is an authentic and outstanding role model for women of all ages.
WHERE IS THIS FROM ?
It’s from “la source des femmes”
THERE IS NOTHING IN THE QU’RAN THAT SAYS WOMEN’S SOLE PURPOSE IS FOR OBEYING AND PROCREATING.
We are allowed to inherit and own property and businesses, and we are allowed to CHOOSE our husbands instead of having them foisted upon us in arranged marriages. WE ARE ALSO ALLOWED TO PARTICIPATE IN COMBAT.
I’ve read the Qu’ran COVER TO COVER and there’s nothing God says about women being LESS than men. In fact, God IMPLORES men to treat women as equals. Probably because God knew men have a tendency to foul things up and has to remind them that WOMEN ARE ALSO PRECIOUS CREATIONS OF HIS DIVINE WILL.
-huffs and puffs-
Sorry. I was in my feelings. But this touches my nerves a lot when people misinterpret Islam as some misogynistic religion. Nothing could be further from the truth.